Why are we so drawn to fit in? We want to stand out, but we don’t want to be out of place. We want to be unique, but still fit in. We want to be special, but are too afraid to take the risky steps to get there.

So we drift towards the disease of conformity. God puts things on our heart, but they require us to step out from our comfort and do something different. There’s social risk with following God. It’s way easier to just push it off. 

The disease of conformity holds you back from doing what you really want to do. The fear of failing or being criticized causes us to take our attention off what we really want to do or even feel called to do and instead just copy/ paste what the people around us are doing.

The danger is when you make decisions based on what they want me to do, rather than what God wants me to do. 

When you start conforming, you can’t take the steps God has laid out before you. And we miss out on the specific ran God has planned for us to run. When we try to conform to other people, we are putting their approval over our own unique fingerprints. God created you to be different from the person next to you. 

God has a role for you to play on the team. It’s specifically designed for you. He’s given you the gifts, knowledge, resources, and pathway for your role. What would happen if everyone on a football team tried to play QB? No one would block. No one would run. No one would catch. A 300-pound offensive guard would play quarterback about as effectively as a crippled rooster.        

Complement their differences. Don’t conform to them.

Embrace the differences between you and the people around you. God calls his followers to be the influencers and shapers of culture. He wants us to be the trend setters. 
Take risks. Step into the person God created you to be. Walk with absolute confidence. Be obedient to the race God has for you.

God’s plan for your life only works if you are yourself.


This is an excerpt from my book, I Care What You Think. To download a free sample or buy it, click the link below!


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Hey! I’m Stephen, the pastor of Grace Church in Bridgewater, MA where I live with my wife, Katy, and my two daughters, Hazel & Holly! I love to read, write, travel, and meet new people. Connect with me anytime at stephen@thatsgrace.org.